I saw a story on TV about a man who posted a photo and profile online and made friends with single women. After he befriended them, he would set up a meeting, only for the women to find out the photo he posted online, and what he looked like in real life, didn’t match.
Okay, so that’s not uncommon. But, what this guy did was build what the women thought was a meaningful relationship with them, wine and dine them and then he would ask them for a short term loan, “until his ship came in”. Some of the women succumbed and gave him thousands dollars. Shortly thereafter, he would disappear and move onto his next victim. The women were left wondering what they had done wrong to cause the the “breakup”.
The women did nothing wrong. They were scammed.
When we blog, visit other blogs and/or build community, we often assume others are who they say they are, look like the photos they post, and possess the credentials they boast of.
But is everything we “see” the truth?
What happens when someone isn’t being authentic?
Do they REALLY have 79,674 RSS feed subscribers? 100,000+ visitors a month? Earn what they say they do?
Did they REALLY accomplish all of this is a short period of time?
Or have the numbers been massaged?
Knowing many stats and photos can be manually manipulated with software such as Adobe Photoshop CS4, is what we see on other blogs giving us unrealistic goals to shoot for? Setting us up for disappointment?
Are we being too gullible? Are we, too, getting scammed?
In some cases, maybe so.
When you look at the statistics others are posting on their blogs, does it make you feel you have a long way to go?
Does it ever make you feel inadequate? Or that you’ll never measure up?
How do you chart your progress? By what others are doing, or by your own set of standards?
Care to share?
P.S. The internet has become a breeding ground for many unscrupulous endeavors. Kathy of Virtual Impax shares the results of her research into this fast growing trend, in her post, Blogs and The Art of Deception. It’s a great read and a real eyeopener.
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