You know how when you talk to your spouse/significant other or friends it’s sometimes obvious they’re not listening.
Truth be told, a lot of people are not good listeners. They’re often preoccupied with other thoughts, just want peace and quiet or are waiting for you to finish talking so they can have the floor.
That said, I don’t know of a person who doesn’t want to be heard.
Age, maturity or whatever you want to call it, has taught me that no one person can be our “everything”. Even if we feel we’ve met our soul mate, they’re not going to want to hear our every word, our every thought and/or our every feeling.
That’s where friends and relatives fill some of the voids.
Even then, our real life relationships may not be enough, especially if we’re interested in topics they don’t care about.
I know with this blog, even though my loved ones support my blogging activities, they don’t care to hear about every little detail I post online. Hence, you’ve become sounding board, even if you don’t comment.
I think that’s why mommy/daddy blogs are so popular. Some parents need to vent, need to share, and turn to blogging as a way to do so. Online they’re bound to find a few people who share their feelings or who will give them a different perspective to consider.
Blogging becomes not only a way to “speak” to others, but a way to be heard.
If we check our stats and see we had visits, we believe our words are being read. If we receive comments, we feel our beliefs are being validated.
That’s a good feeling, isn’t it?
Once we know/believe we’ve been heard, we can leave our computer with a feeling of satisfaction and go back into the real world with a sense of fulfillment.
It’s a win-win.
We got to vent to others whom we believe are listening, and our loved ones are spared from hearing about topics they have no interest in.
A word of warning. Blogging and social networking are not meant to replace communication in our real life relationships although the line between the two can become blurred.
Do you feel blogging is helping or hurting your real life relationships?
Care to share?
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